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Balanced Parenting

September, 2013



Upcoming Events!


It's time for our

Back to School

"Coffee with Bette"

This coming


September 3rd at

The Stonehaus in Westlake Village.  Bring the kids and your parenting questions!

9:30-11 AM


We will meet outside so bring your sunscreen and sunglasses!



Parent Support Group

for Parents of 0-12 Year Olds!


September 11th

7:30 - 9:00 P.M. in

my Westlake Village office

RSVP requested!


"Coffee with Bette

in the Valley"


September 19th

9:30-11 AM

Aroma Bakery & Cafe, Encino



W(h)ine with Bette!

For Parents of Teens and Tweens!

Contact me for more info!







Hello, Friends!


It's Back to School time! Kids are back in the classrooms which means the homework battles, difficult mornings and crazy, long days have begun. Don't let the whole year go by without figuring out some new tools to turn those challenges into joys!


Make it a point to get resourceful this fall! Attend Coffee with Bette, come to my support group or call for a private session.  You'll be so glad you did! (Sorry for the shameless plug, but really, it'll be good for you.)


Wishing you love and balance,


Bette Alkazian, LMFT
Balanced Parenting
Parenting tip of the month:




With a new school year comes a lot of separations. Some for kids and some for parents.  Kids suffering from separation anxiety in preschool all the way to parents struggling to say goodbye to their kids leaving for college; the tears are certainly flowing this time of year!


At each developmental stage there is a new level of separation that takes place.  When a child is born, weans, walks, goes off to school, every developmental level, leaving for college, etc...these are all new levels of letting go.


Separation anxiety is perfectly normal at certain stages of development and also for kids with anxiety or who are highly sensitive.  If you have concerns about your child's separation anxiety, don't hesitate to check in with your school professionals or give me a call to check to see if what's happening sounds healthy and appropriate. 


Separation anxiety can also be a good thing. It tells me that there is a healthy attachment bond between parent and child, which is a very good thing! 


How do we help our kids through it? 


When I used to leave my kids when they were little, I would sing the Hap Palmer song "Mommy Comes Back".  You can sing any song that is special to you and then sing it again when you return.  It will be comforting to your child.  At preschool, have your child push you out the door with the promise of your return (be specific about when...right after lunch, after rest time, etc...) 


For parents, it is so important to remember not to show YOUR anxiety about separations in front of your child. That will only add to his/her struggle.


Remember that every stage of raising kids is about teaching them to separate from you and become independent.  It's painful and beautiful all at the same time.









I have had several requests for a Parents of Teens Support Group! Perhaps, I'll call it "W(h)ine with Bette"?

If you are interested or know someone who would be, please let me know ASAP! or 805-230-2464 



Speaking Engagements Available!

Speaking to Parents in Groups, Schools, and Church/Synagogue Communities is one of my greatest joys. It enables me to share what I'm most passionate about and to give more parents tools and inspiration to make their families even better.

Thank you for introducing me to your community!

Now booking speaking engagements for the late Fall and Winter!